As many Chronic Pain Sufferers know, depression attaches itself to the excruciating pain you already suffer through. This occurs for a variety of reasons:
- you just don’t feel well
- you don’t feel like going out with friends
- you may feel abandoned by your friends
- you can’t do the things you did before the pain became “chronic”
And I’m sure there are many other reasons to spark your depression, but I found these to be the top four that hit me wth depression faster than my pain meds took effect.
We talked about the warning signs of questionable therapy and counseling to look for when you decide to go to a counselor or therapist in Part 1 and we’re going to continue with the next 18 items:
19. Without authorization, your therapist discloses your identifying information.
20. Your therapist begins to tell you the identity of another client.
21. You learn your therapist has never participated in personal therapy work.
22.You find you therapist cannot admit mistakes or accept feedback.
23.Without helping you to change, your therapist focuses extensively on diagnosing.
24.Counselor talks way too much, without giving you a chance to speak.
25.Or, your therapist doesn’t talk at all.
26.Leaving you confused, your therapist speaks in “psychobabble.”
27.Without considering your feelings and somatic experiences, your therapist focuses on thoughts and cognition at your expense.
28. At the exclusion of thoughts, insight, and cognitive processing, counselor focuses on feelings and somatic experience.
29. Acting as if they have the answers/solutions to everything, therapists spend time telling you how to best fix or change things in your life.
30. Your Counselor gives frequent unsolicited advice, makes decisions for you, or tells you what to do.
31.Your dependency is encouraged by your therapist by allowing you to get your emotional needs met from the therapist.
32. Against your will, your therapist attempts to keep you in therapy.
33.The belief factor of the therapist is that only her counseling works and she ridicules the approaches of other therapists.
34.Making you feel uncomfortable, your therapist is contentious with you or may be confrontational.
35.Your counselor doesn’t remember your name or your interactions from one session to the next.
36. Appearing to be in her own little world, your therapist doesn’t pay attention to you, listen to you, or understand you.
I’m sure you will agree these are powerful factors to take into consideration when you are paying your hard earned money to see a therapist for help and guidance. Be sure to print these items out here or go to GoodTherapy.org for the full article. Part 3 is the last blog regarding the warning signs of questionable therapy. After that blog, we will look into the positive signs of therapy.
I hope these series are helping you with your therapy if you are going to a therapist or counselor or if you are considering going to a therapist. And hopefully, you are not seeing any of these negative factors with your therapist.
Take care of YOU, and I look forward to hearing from you,
Taking pain one day at a time,